Go To The Source

I have a friend, a good friend, who trusts no one.  She hasn’t always been this way, but she has grown callous over the years from people failing her. She has even turned away from fellowship with the Body of Christ because they have not met her needs or expectations. She is dear to me – I am concerned for her and I pray every day that she will see that there is only One who satisfies. As a wife, I know that I put a lot more faith in my husband at the beginning of our marriage than I should have; poor Lloyd had to wear a halo and a superhero suit almost every day. But one day he told me plainly that he was not interested in being my god or my hero — only my husband. We’ve been living in a joyful marriage ever since that realization came to us. Who are you depending on? Who do you expect to be there whenever you call (or text)? Who do you expect to be there when you cry? Who do you expect to defend you? Who do you expect to understand what you are feeling? When your friends disappoint you by not showing up; by not understanding; by not answering the phone; by saying just the opposite of what you need them to say — what is your reaction? We all spend a lot of our time disappointed in people because they don’t do what we need them to do; say what we need them to say; act like we need them to act. People just don’t meet our needs. In our frustrations, it is common to lash out at people – to cut them off from your ‘inner circle’; even to bad mouth them to others. Most of us do not kill people physically, but we do call people ‘dead to us’ because we have been failed by them. It is kind of funny when you think about it — we throw tantrums when others fail us as if we never fail anybody. Laughable! We all fail other people – every day! I don’t know where we all got it wrong, really. The Word of God is clear that He is our sufficiency; that everything that we need is in Him; that He will supply our needs; that He will not fail us. I don’t know where we all got the idea that other people – other fallen beings – other imperfect humans; would be able to satisfy our longings for anything. As for me, I will just go to the source – the The One who cannot fail; who will not forsake; who cannot lie. I will give myself no cause to desire what another person might have that I think I need, rather I will place my needs and desires before my God and King and await his answer and his provision. Before you decide that your friend/family member/co-worker is not worth it because of their failure; redirect yourself – consider going to The Source for your needs. He loves to meet the needs of His children – He is waiting for you to ask.

You lust and do not have; so you commit murder. You are envious and cannot obtain; so you fight and quarrel. You do not have because you do not ask. (‭James‬ ‭4‬:‭2‬)

Godly Counsel – God’s Counsel – The Counsel of Man

advice“Moreover, Jehoshaphat said to the king of Israel, “Please inquire first for the word of the Lord.” Then the king of Israel gathered the prophets together, about four hundred men, and said to them, “Shall I go against Ramoth- gilead to battle or shall I refrain?” And they said, “Go up, for the Lord will give it into the hand of the king.” But Jehoshaphat said, “Is there not yet a prophet of the Lord here that we may inquire of him?”” 1 Kings 22: 5-7

The counsel of many does not make that counsel the counsel of God – we must always seek a word from the Lord before we act.

There are times when we consult pastors or church leaders about personal or ministry problems and they take those problems before their leadership (leadership that they trust) and come back to us with an answer.  While this seems like wisdom, it may be (and almost always is) man’s wisdom.  When a brother is in sin, the Word of God is clear that we should go before him with a quorum of brethren for the sake of reconciliation.  But in the case that we are seeking God’s counsel on life matters, decisions that we must make – the number of counselors is not important – rather it is that the counsel be godly.  The difference is that a word from the Lord will confirm God’s will for us.  We must remember that if we are sincerely seeking God’s face in our lives – it will be difficult for the enemy to deceive us into doing something contrary to the will of God.  It must be our hearts desire to please God in all areas of our lives, no matter if it makes us unpopular among men.  A wise man once told me that you should keep your friends, your close friends, to a minimum because if the day comes that you want to make a decision counter to the group, you will have a better chance of standing your ground if the people are less.  There is some truth to that.  As believers, we must entrust our lives to the Lord alone.  We can seek the opinions of others, but in the end we are obliged to take the decision before the Lord and trust Him to guide and direct us.  If our relationship with God is not such that we trust Him to guide us — make a change in that today!

Father,  help me to rely on and trust in only You.  When you send a word my way, quicken my spirit to know that it is You.  When a deceiver comes to me, quicken my spirit to know that I should beware.  I lay my life in your hands today afresh.  I ask that You alone would move me to do the right thing at the right time.  I trust in You!  Amen

“But Jehoshaphat said, “Is there not yet a prophet of the Lord here that we may inquire of him?”” 1 Kings 22:7