I have a friend, a good friend, who trusts no one. She hasn’t always been this way, but she has grown callous over the years from people failing her. She has even turned away from fellowship with the Body of Christ because they have not met her needs or expectations. She is dear to me – I am concerned for her and I pray every day that she will see that there is only One who satisfies. As a wife, I know that I put a lot more faith in my husband at the beginning of our marriage than I should have; poor Lloyd had to wear a halo and a superhero suit almost every day. But one day he told me plainly that he was not interested in being my god or my hero — only my husband. We’ve been living in a joyful marriage ever since that realization came to us. Who are you depending on? Who do you expect to be there whenever you call (or text)? Who do you expect to be there when you cry? Who do you expect to defend you? Who do you expect to understand what you are feeling? When your friends disappoint you by not showing up; by not understanding; by not answering the phone; by saying just the opposite of what you need them to say — what is your reaction? We all spend a lot of our time disappointed in people because they don’t do what we need them to do; say what we need them to say; act like we need them to act. People just don’t meet our needs. In our frustrations, it is common to lash out at people – to cut them off from your ‘inner circle’; even to bad mouth them to others. Most of us do not kill people physically, but we do call people ‘dead to us’ because we have been failed by them. It is kind of funny when you think about it — we throw tantrums when others fail us as if we never fail anybody. Laughable! We all fail other people – every day! I don’t know where we all got it wrong, really. The Word of God is clear that He is our sufficiency; that everything that we need is in Him; that He will supply our needs; that He will not fail us. I don’t know where we all got the idea that other people – other fallen beings – other imperfect humans; would be able to satisfy our longings for anything. As for me, I will just go to the source – the The One who cannot fail; who will not forsake; who cannot lie. I will give myself no cause to desire what another person might have that I think I need, rather I will place my needs and desires before my God and King and await his answer and his provision. Before you decide that your friend/family member/co-worker is not worth it because of their failure; redirect yourself – consider going to The Source for your needs. He loves to meet the needs of His children – He is waiting for you to ask.
You lust and do not have; so you commit murder. You are envious and cannot obtain; so you fight and quarrel. You do not have because you do not ask. (James 4:2)